Daughter-in-Law

Nasruddin, knowing his son was looking for a wife, asked him what type of wife he wanted.
“One who is intelligent and expressive“ the latter replied.
“OK,” replied Nasruddin, “I’ll help you find such a woman.”
So as part of his plan, Nasruddin led his son to the town square. He then slapped his son in front of all the people and exclaimed, “This is what you get for doing exactly what I told you to do!“
One young lady saw this and remarked, “Stop hitting him. How can you punish him for obeying what you said?”
When the son heard this, he turned to his father and said, “She seems like the right woman for me—don’t you think so?”
“Well,” replied Nasruddin, “she is certainly expressive and intelligent, but perhaps ther’e a woman out there who isan even better fit for you.”
So Nasruddin led his son the neighboring area’s town square and repeated the same scene. This time, a young lady saw this and said, “Go ahead and hit him. Only a fool would follow orders so blindly.”
When Nasruddin heard this, he said to his son, “The first woman, she was intelligent and expressive—but this woman is on an entirely higher level altogether. I think we’ve found your future wife.”

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When you search for a Master look for someone who is not merely looking for followers of his orders. When you visit a real Master and try to blindly imitate him and also consider it as pleasing to the Master then you would come for a rude shock. Something that shocks you need not be necessarily unhygienic to you. The second woman may have scared the son, but Nasruddin understands that this woman has the capacity to even pull his son to a higher level. Nasruddin's would like to yoke their sons and daughters to such a person of altitude.
With the first woman, the father is being asked to not punish a son because the son is a follower. She cares for the harassed, she expresses that, but she is not against the very concept of followership. She cannot root out the harassment.

Nasruddin is looking for a leader, not a mere follower for his son. When one blindly follows the order, the giver of the order is also bound to be a blind. This only creates a tradition of blinds. Such traditions may have support and sanction of the society, may have large followership. But that does not matter of a Master like Nasruddin - who looks forward to creating and seeing a leader in another.
Masters don't create followers, they nurture leaders.